Relationship Coaching that Empowers Your Feminine Wisdom
Have you noticed that there are a growing number of women who are feeling dissatisfied in their intimate relationships with men? And that more and more women are not happy to settle for a relationship that does not meet their needs?
Yes, me too.
Like them, you really want your relationship to work but get so tied up in knots about how to do that.
You experience feelings of anxiety, insecurity, and confusion.
You become unhappy and destabilized if your relationship is ‘not working’ and you feel like you are pulling your hair out just trying to get some kind of connection and communication going with your partner.
You feel torn – it can be excruciating, you have so much invested in the relationship – perhaps you have children, a house together, or what seems like a lifetime of bonding, even if you haven’t been in the relationship that long.
But staying just feels like more of the same, the same pain, the same frustration, the same energy draining feelings. And leaving isn’t an option, either, because the love is still so strong, or because you have so much invested together.
Perhaps you really want to leave but don’t know how on earth to do that – what about the consequences? or perhaps you just need some understanding about what may be going on and how to work with it…..
Or maybe you have already decided it’s time to go…
I know what that feels like…
And remember, despite how it feels sometimes, you are not alone. Millions of women are waking up to their desire for a different kind of relationship, the kind of relationship that is loving, supportive of your visions and dreams, the kind that doesn’t involve hours of endless arguments or stand offs, the kind that is radically different to the ones that most likely your parents had.
I believe that women like you who want more from their relationships with men:
✓ Want more from life generally and don’t want to settle for a relationship that does not serve you.
✓ As a modern woman you no longer need to stay in a relationship because of financial reasons or because of pressure from society, therefore you may feel unsure about the purpose of your relationship.
✓ You know intuitively that unless it adds a quality of love and support, to you and your life, it feels hard to keep fully investing yourself into the relationship.
✓ You want to be a conscious role model for your children, you want you and your partner to model healthy, loving ways of relating, and aware of the kind of role models you mostly likely had, you want to do it very differently.
✓ You’re frustrated with the level of communication and intimacy between you and long for greater depth, understanding and connection, where there is mutual love and respect for each other’s needs.
✓ You want to feel that you and your partner are on the same page in terms of where the relationship is going, and to feel that your partner is in alignment with this, even if it involves personal growth work for you and for him.
✓ You long for your partner to just listen to you and not feel criticized.
Can you relate to this? Does this resonate?
If this sounds like you then welcome, I’d like you to feel at home here.
“My name is Anna Finlayson and I believe that there’s an evolution taking place right now – and you’re part of it.”
You, me and many other women are becoming more and more aware of their needs in relationship to men and are no longer willing to settle for a mediocre at best, or unsatisfying at worst, relationship with their man.
I have a vision for the world where fully empowered women and fully empowered men are in relationships that are truly co-creative partnerships.
I am impassioned to support women towards their own instinctual, intuitive KNOWING of what feels healthy and life-giving for them, their children and their relationships.
I help women learn to trust their sovereignty as human beings and to articulate and honour their own needs as much as everyone else’s. Particularly in the area of intimate relationships, we women can quite often unconsciously give up on what we need and desire and learn to settle for the crumbs.
How can I help you on your journey?
Well, like you, I’ve also struggled with my intimate relationships.
4 years ago I ended my 15 year relationship.
It took a lot of courage to do that. I had invested so much – emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, practically, financially into that relationship that the thought of ending it felt like having to sever my own arm. We had a business together and his family were my family.
The world around me collapsed when I made the discovery that would lead me to the decision to end it. It took every fiber of my being to survive; every ounce of energy I could muster from my depleted, exhausted body to begin to recover from the shock.
I had thought that I had already gone through the worst; my dark night of the soul when I was 14 and my mother had left home, leaving me with my abusive father.
I thought I had already lived the nightmare.
But no matter all the learning and insight gained through therapy and self-development of the last twenty-five years, I had not really, it seems, healed the pain and the grief.
Through my own experience, I have been able to better understand the territory and confusing journey of beginning to embody my truth as a woman and what it means to have an honouring and life-serving relationship to men.
“I could not have done this kind of recovery work from my break up without the amazing support I have received from other women and professionals.”
I’ve been able to evolve and expand into the next level of my being in greater than imagined ways.
I am deeply grateful for the experience and am now honoured to share my learning with others.
I want you to receive this same support, insight and breakthrough so that you and all of us can experience transformation on both a personal and cultural level.
I would like to invite you to see this experience in the context of your evolving personal and spiritual growth.
But I also know that having this perspective means nothing when you are going through a tremendous amount of pain or confusion.
“I am here to offer you empathy, holding and guidance through the particular challenge that you are experiencing right now. Nothing will faze me.”
I have worked with over 300 couples and over a thousand individuals in group and one to one settings. I am a qualified as a Relationship Coach with a specialist training in couple counselling and relationship psychotherapy with a focus on empowering women – that is, to support women to become conscious of their own authority, beauty and feminine power.
I have been there, I have come through and I can support you to do the same; whether that means you stay in the relationship and go on to have a deeply loving experience or whether ultimately you decide it is time to leave.
What’s the first step?
Gain clarity in your relationship by getting your free relationship assessment. By answering a few simple questions we can assess where you are and what your next step could be in moving past the pain or confusion to the other side.
As well as being a qualified Relationship Coach with the Centre for Gender Psychology, I have been qualified as a trainer and coach with the Centre for Nonviolent Communication (NVC) from 2002-2013 and I am an accredited Mediator. I am a graduate of the Feminine Power programme and have studied Conscious Uncoupling (including personal coaching through my own break up) as well as taking part in intensive women’s work with the Centre for Gender Psychology, Celebration of Woman and with Social Alchemy – Honouring the Feminine and the Masculine. I have invested (and continue to invest) in over 25 years of psychological, emotional, and spiritual growth work, all of which supports me to support you and give you the best possible guidance as we meet at this point on your journey.
“What I love is when someone takes their own experience and wounding and finds the gold within this and then uses this transformation to enhance others lives. When another Woman has been where I am and struggled with what I am struggling with, I feel this in my bones and belly and trust this.
This type of meeting and support for me is the best medicine. Anna has the inner qualification of not merely surviving but flourishing. I have had the blessing of witnessing her unfoldment with joy.”
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